It’s amazing how much we hide, from our self and from others especially. I had to come to terms with this in my life.  We are hard wired to be what others need us to be so much so that we deny ourselves pleasure and mentally say no to what we what. We say in our heads, I can’t do that and we know why because so and so would die, because he would have a fit, because that would be a big fight, and on and on. So the so and so, he, or she becomes the strings that dictate our movement.
The puppet strings are latched.
It’s hard when you know your actions will bring hurt, conflict, or dractic reactions, but to steal the phrase, “come out the closet”, and live an authentic life. The life that feels good to you and allow others to find someone else, another way, or change to accommodate you,whatever works for them.
Not all women live in hiding and those that don’t advance. It is my gestimate, that they may have 1 child if they’re a mother at all, have never been married is divorced,  or is married to her one and only love, and finally is earning an income over 60K.
How is this, because these women, nicely have not had to accommodate a list of others before getting to herself .
In the lack of advancing, we hide from ourselves not wanting to admit our weakness, defending our poor decisions, making excuses and my favorite, beating ourselves up for every mishap.
It’s time to advance with a long jump and high determination, even if it’s a few feet or to the next level.

How do we do this? Let me propose that we take these steps:
Get in a quite place, listen to our breathing for a few seconds taking long breaths at first then slow steady breaths
Write down what you’d really like to be doing right now in your life and the things that would be nice if, once you’re finish the list.
Write down why you are not having the experience you’d like.
Your whys should be all about you ; what you did not do, or say, or make clear, or say no to and those reasons.
Trust me you will move! There are things that will make the list that will come to an end today, new determinations will come out, much needed actions, and new understandings will be formed. Oh you will advance, for some baby steps, for others major changes.
My suggestion is to connect with your good intentions for your self and be motivated to see the good outcome you desire. Stay focused on the outcome of your desire, it being some good. Please celebrate your steps made. Find some small reward that says to you, you’ve done good.
Why take the time to do this exercise because there is something more for you and you have not seen the other you without the weights, without the load of crap we tell ourselves. There is another you, other adventures, more to experience and you deserve to see it, be l and do it.

It’s time to advance! .

Yes or no, that is the question. What are you saying yes to and what are you saying no to these days? It is inevitable that you are deciding on certain things and declining on certain things as well.
Humor me, are yesssssss due to obligation and people pleasing and is your  no due to playing small and indecisiveness?
Would a yes to joining or committing mean that you will eventually have say no to people and things and guilt you would feel keeps you from giving yourself that resounding yes, I’m gonna do it. I know for me guilt stopped me many times. My brilliant mind would say what about them, him, her, my duties,  and it would have to be no thus time, again.
I am not suggesting we negate responsibility, but sometimes the responsibilities need to be examined and reconsidered. What am I saying? 
That the rewards of saying yes to you and saying no to things we’ve been saying yes to, may bring higher possibilities to how we serve, saying yes and then no, may thrust us into the bigger picture rather keeping us constricted to the small circle of menial task. The yes and then a no, may allow others to grow in ways that enlarge them.
What are you saying yes to that only serve the needs of a select few, needs that establish comfort and complacency, needs in others due to fears and stagnation, are you keeping someone else’s life convenient by giving them the yes while saying no to allowing your light to shine and illuminate to a broader sphere?
Can you think of things you can say yes to today that will certainly upgrade you?
Many times we have by going to school or starting a business or taking that need trip, and we out everyone on alert, I can’t be available. Let these events encourage a momentum that allows us to keep moving in our services and contribution to becoming even more within, having a greater influence and shine, in living out some dreams and desires.
What am I saying? Say no to playing small, so others can feel comfortable,  say no to the mini me (that person inside  you that feels small) that limits you from believing for bigger & better possibilities, say no to the guilt trips, (refuse to pack and take the trip your mind or others will take you on).
These are success sabatages that keep use running the same routes and making the same plays.
We gotta keep changing the game!
Peace and love
Lisa

It’s amazing how much we hide, from our self and from others especially. I had to come to terms with this in my life.  We are hard wired to be what others need us to be so much so that we deny ourselves pleasure and mentally say no to what we what. We say in our heads, I can’t do that and we know why because so and so would die, because he would have a fit, because that would be a big fight, and on and on. So the so and so, he, or she becomes the strings that dictate our movement.

The puppet strings are latched.

It’s hard when you know your actions will bring hurt, conflict, or dractic reactions, but to steal the phrase, “come out the closet”, and live an authentic life. The life that feels good to you and allow others to find someone else, another way, or change to accommodate you,whatever works for them.

Not all women live in hiding and those that don’t advance. It is my gestimate, that they may have 1 child if they’re a mother at all, have never been married is divorced,  or is married to her one and only love, and finally is earning an income over 60K.

How is this, because these women, nicely have not had to accommodate a list of others before getting to herself .

In the lack of advancing, we hide from ourselves not wanting to admit our weakness, defending our poor decisions, making excuses and my favorite, beating ourselves up for every mishap.

It’s time to advance with a long jump and high determination, even if it’s a few feet or to the next level.

How do we do this? Let me propose that we take these steps:

Get in a quite place, listen to our breathing for a few seconds taking long breaths at first then slow steady breaths

Write down what you’d really like to be doing right now in your life and the things that would be nice if, once you’re finish the list.

Write down why you are not having the experience you’d like.

Your whys should be all about you ; what you did not do, or say, or make clear, or say no to and those reasons.

Trust me you will move! There are things that will make the list that will come to an end today, new determinations will come out, much needed actions, and new understandings will be formed. Oh you will advance, for some baby steps, for others major changes.

My suggestion is to connect with your good intentions for your self and be motivated to see the good outcome you desire. Stay focused on the outcome of your desire, it being some good. Please celebrate your steps made. Find some small reward that says to you, you’ve done good.

Why take the time to do this exercise because there is something more for you and you have not seen the other you without the weights, without the load of crap we tell ourselves. There is another you, other adventures, more to experience and you deserve to see it, be l and do it.

It’s time to advance! .

I’d like to add. We all struggle with sinfulness, secretly and openly. God is the answer to our life struggle, confusion and difficulty. We’ve decided to be our own counselor or have allowed the demoralized standards of the world determine who we are and what we do. It’s sad and I feel sad for “Bruce”. Jesus is the greatest counselor AND redeemer, why don’t we try Him by acknowledging Him in all our way and no leaning on our own understanding and allow Him to direct our path. Finally, I’d like to say His ways are not our ways but His ways are perfect!

I realize that I believe in things I  can’t see. I believe in gravity, I believe the earth travels around the sun although I’ve never felt or saw the earth move, and I believe in gospels of Jesus.

This is faith in what I’ve been told.

I have also believed in things that I’ve been told that don’t actually make my life great.

It is now time to believe in things that serve me to a fuller and better life.

I’m now choosing to believe that life is simple, that things I desire are seeking me and show up in effortlessly with surprise and wonder. That my good is never compromised and it follows me.

I am standing in my new beliefs because I can choose to believe in things I cannot explain but I know to be true in my heart.

So I choose to think on things that are good, virtuous, of a good report and they will become true for me.

What are you believing and how does it serve you.

Lisa